I realize that as an adult, I am supposed to be above immaturity and temper tantrums. I do realize this. However, I am about to go off on a rant of gargantuan proportions here, so I ya don't want to hear me bitch, click a link or something now.
Last night I took the kids out to Trick or Treat on Main Street. I love Grapevine. They close Main Street and have all kinds of little "festivals" for all sorts of shit. It's a very historic town, and I love it...really, I do. However, last night I have to say that I ran across some of our towns "winning" residents, and I was truly proud of myself for not beating the ass of some very deserving children and their equally deserving parents.
At 37, I am still very harpy on manners. My dear hubby, even more so. He has actually helped me break some very ugly habits that were rude beyond all belief. Like tossing change onto a counter, when the person working behind the counter is standing there with their hand out, waiting for the change. Like always saying please at the drive thru rather than just saying "gimme" or "i need". These very things that I was once oh so guilty of, have become my pet peeves. So last night was an assault on my "manner radar" and I thought I actually handled myself pretty well.
For example:

These are my munchkins prepared to go out for Halloween. The dragon is my son, Bubba, and the Ninja is my sweet, darling Mimi. God forbid my daughter pick out a "girl" costume. The knives got left in the van, btw. She didn't want to have them tucked into her belt. But anyway, we are standing in line, and this girl, who is supposed to be a vampire, goes walking up in front of us. Bubba says "HEY!" I say, "Sweetie, there's a line here, and you're jumping in front of a lot of people." Her dad is standing down in the street and tells her to hurry up and go get her candy. Just go, he says, rather loudly causing a few people to look at him. I calmly tell Mr. Antsy-pants that we are all waiting our turn to let our kids get their candy, and he glares at me, then says that he didn't realize that there was a line. No, I didn't lose it, but I did piss him off without being overly rude myself. I replied, "Oh, well, I can see how you could miss all of us standing her single file, waiting patiently and moving slowly along the sidewalk." That was when he told me I didn't need to be rude. But before I could say anything the guy behind me piped up and told him that the only person who was being rude, was him, and to leave me alone. I was touched, actually, by this.
Okay, now I get not wanting someone to be rude to your child...I don't like anyone being rude to my kids, and I'll be damned if I let my kids think that it's okay for them to allow people to be rude to them. There have to be some people willing to call others on their rudeness. Some days I will ignore rudeness, but most days not. Especially not when the person who is being treated rudely is one of my kids, or a "service" worker who cannot call a rude asshole on their rude bullshit. I have stood behind people and said please when they told the counter worker at McDonald's to "give me". I have said "excuse me" to someone who tries to act like I don't exist in the aisle at the grocery store after they nearly run my big ass over with their cart. I have said "you're welcome" to soemone who didn't say thank you after I so nicely didn't let the door of the store shut in their face...that one really pisses people off.
I know, you're thinking that I'm being rude...and I am, but for a reason. I have come to realize that many rude people don't get it. They don't see their behavior as rude. They think only of themselves, no one else and the fact of the matter is, we all have to live together on this planet, for better or worse, and would it really kill any of us to try to be a little nicer and make our lives and the lives of those around us a little more pleasant. I truly believe that there are people out in the world who will not change their behavior without prodding. So no, I am not above being snide or rude to someone who is rude to others.
I have parked so close to a car that all my kids had to get out on my side because the individual in the next parking place couldn't park in her parking place, but had part of the next one as well. And yes, I have done it on purpose. I have also made a woman wait for me to move my van because she couldn't get into her car until I did. When she started cussing me about it, I calmly pointed out that I was in my parking place. She was pissed, but what could she say? What made it priceless was that we were in a convenience store when she started cussing me, and I stayed calm, and everyone in the store is looking at our vehicles and the looking at her like she's a total bitch, because she's cussing me for parking in my parking place. But, shit like that sticks in people's minds.
I have called people on their rudeness to the person behind the counter at the store, the fast food place, the cleaner's...where ever. The lady that jumped in front of 3 of us standing in line at the pharmacy counter, slapped her prescription down on the counter and said, I kid you not, "Fill this for me." No excuse me, no please, no niceness whatsoever. I could have kept my mouth shut, but hey, why start at this late date. My kids weren't there, and personally, I was in a bad mood. So I said, rather loudly,
"Gee, were we in your way?" She turned and looked at me, and said,
"Excuse me?"
"Well, we were all here in line, waiting our turn. I was just wondering if we were in your way?"
"I'm in a hurry."
"SO?"
"Excuse me?"
"What makes you think we aren't in a hurry?"
"I beg your pardon?" She's getting pissed now, you could tell, and the lady behind me is snickering
"I was just curious as to how you being in a hurry justifies your rudeness not just to us, but also to the girl behind the counter there. It's bad enough that you try to jump in front of 3 people waiting their turn in line, but then you're rude to the girl trying to help us. She can't say anything to you about your rudeness, but I sure as hell can" (now, just so you don't think too badly of me, I never raised my voice during this incident at the pharmacy counter, though by the time it was over, she was yelling)
"I, I just need to get this filled and get home."
"Oh, well, I'm waiting for my son's antibiotic. He has strep throat. I'm sure he won't mind holding off his healing so you can hurry home." Then she yelled the magic words...
"What is your problem anyway?"
"My problem is that you completely ignore the three of us standing in a line waiting to be helped by that little girl back there. You slap you scrip on the counter and TELL her to fill it. You didn't ask her to fill it. You told her to. Then, when someone points out how rude and inconsiderate you are being, you get offended, and act like you did nothing wrong. You, ma'am, are my problem."
The look on her face, as I stood there, calling her on her rudeness, was priceless. She took her prescription and left without another word, and the little old man in front of me said that he was impressed that I had said something. Most people wouldn't have.
well, I ain't most people...but I digress...the fact of the matter is, rudeness is born of laziness and a lack of respect for our fellow man, and we in no way should allow others to be rude to us, or those who cannot defend themselves because if they do they could lose their job. Just think what a better place our world would be, if EVERYONE said 'please', 'thank you', 'excuse me', and just in general, were nice.
Okay, that's my soapbox moment...as always, it's okay if you don't like it...it's my blog and that's how I feel.